Marriage is an institution that serves society. Established by God for the purpose of expressing
God's spousal, procreative love through the relationship between a man and a woman, committed to each other for life, marriage is the cornerstone of
family life. Moreover, the family is the basic cell of society. Strong marriages fortify families; strong families build up communities.
Married people reflect God's love and become credible signs of that love to the world. To do this successfully and for life, married couples need wisdom
and strength from the village to keep their promise.
At the heart of sin is the loss of memory. Because of our sinful nature, we sometimes forget our promise; we sometimes cannot see our way clearly. The love that is most critical in
marriage is the love that is hardest to give, to love when the beloved is least lovable. At such times when their love reflects the Paschal Mystery, married couples need their village to help
them to remember who they are and whose they are, to clear their vision to see each other as gift and precious as in God's sight. At those times the village needs the powerful witness of
marriage as evidence of the redemptive power of love.
The work of Lyke To Lyke Consultants and our not-for-profit arm, Arusi Network, Inc., is to awaken us, married couples and the stake-holding communities in which we live and move
and have our being, to this truth about marriage, that none of us are strong enough or wise enough to do this alone. We need the wisdom and strength of the village to sustain marriage,
and the village needs marriage to be the credible witness of God's covenantal love in our midst.
The programs and services we offer lead to a deeper understanding and appreciation of an
African worldview (defining the "I" in the "we") as it pertains to marriage. Indeed, it takes a
village to sustain a lifelong marriage. The more a married couple embraces this truth the broader their base becomes. And their marriage strengthens.
Each married couple needs a clearly defined mission to serve the village and to let their light shine on the world; the village must have a mission to protect the institution of marriage and
encourage married couples. The failure of a marriage is the failure of a community. The grace of marriage is the grace of the community.
Our vision and purpose are:
- to guide and assist married couples to cultivate supportive resources for sustaining their marriages;
- to assist married couples in collaborating on and articulating a promising story about their relationship;
- to encourage married couples to shape for themselves and live their unique mission to their family and friends, their community and the world, and
- to encourage individuals and institutions in the community to engage as stakeholders of marriage and protect the institution of marriage as their interest.